There will be times, of course, when you are angry. Just because you don't discipline out of anger doesn't mean you won't feel angry. My kids have done things that made me livid, and it took me between ten minutes and an entire day to calm down. But I've learned that I am not ready to discipline my child until I can do so under control. The best way to do that is to have your child go to his room, or for you to go to your room, or both. There's nothing wrong with taking time to invite God to "clothe" you in the Spirit of Christ, remind yourself that Jesus has already paid for your children's sins, ask God to help you handle your anger appropriately, and then deal with the situation rationally.
Note: It is important to realize that although the following studies appear to
demonstrate a strong correlation between spanking in childhood and problems in
adulthood, no cause-and-effect relationship has been conclusively proven.
Results of studies reported upon during: 1985 & 1986
1987 to 1995 , including one remarkable comparison and a longitudinal study of major importance
1996 & 1997 , including another study of major importance
Correlations between childhood spanking & adult sexual behavior
Print a form to ask that your child be exempted from corporal punishment at school
Spanking /child abuse in Canada: Background
Events: 1980 to 1999
Events: 2000 to 2006
Decision of the Supreme Court of Canada, 2004
Events: 2007 to 2012
Events: 2013 to now
There's little or no cost associated with corporal punishment. Administrators don't have to hire staff to monitor suspensions or detentions. Spanking or paddling is typically administered in the principal's office during school hours. Teachers don't have to spend additional work hours -- adding to the payroll -- to read and grade punishment-oriented assignments. The cost of a wooden paddle is negligible and the administrative paperwork -- other than documentation of why, when, where and by whom the punishment was administered -- is minimal. In states that allow corporal punishment, individual school districts create their own rules governing the use of corporal punishment . Parents should consult with representatives of the school district or with their child's principal to review corporal punishment guidelines in their district, according to The Washington Post website.